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我们每天都面临将长期影响我们职业生涯的一些选择。我是不是要做这些项目的志愿者？我是不是要向老板主动要求升职？我是不是应该休假一段时间？我是不是要忍受加班？

但有些时候我们却忽略了20年后当我们回顾自己的职业生涯时，将会让我们觉得骄傲、满足、或是后悔的最重要的那些选择。

下面是常见的但却会让我们在20年后感到深深后悔的职业选择：

假装成为你不是的那些人。

为了取悦你的老板，你可能会假装自己是一个篮球迷；为了维持表面的和平，你可能宁愿闭嘴不说任何话，也可能在你并不擅长的领域假装成一个专家。但持续伪装成你自己不是的那种人不但对自己不真诚也会让自己觉得很空虚。

做决策时仅仅着眼于钱。

无论是个人的工资还是一个项目的经费，如果仅仅按照钱的多少来做决定的话是绝对不明智的。当然，钱的确很重要，但还有其他非常多的因素你需要进行考虑，包括你自己的直觉。

觉得你自己可以左右一个工作。

就像面对一段感情一样，面对一份工作你可能也会想“如果。。。这个工作就完美了”，这是一个危险的信号。事实是，如果你不是一个领导或者老总级别的，你绝对没有任何可能改变任何根本性的错误。

力求安稳。

你可能有一个‘还可以’的工作，有一份‘还可以’的薪水，和‘还可以’的福利，但你真正想要的确是。。。你没有为自己争取想要的东西仅仅是力求安稳于那些‘还可以’。相信自己足够去追求那些你应得的－－无论是新职位，涨薪酬，还是一个机会。

一周工作50,60,80个小时。

你可能觉得你必须工作这么长的时间－－因为别人是这么期望的，因为你需要钱，因为你想在老板面前表现的更好一点。。。但是没有人会在他临终的时候对自己说，“天哪，我真希望当初能多花点时间在工作上。”

将家人和朋友放在最后一位。

成功的意义是有支持关心你的人在你的身旁，但通常，这些人不会是你的同事或员工，而是你的家人和朋友。毁掉和家人朋友的关系会让你发现事业的成功并不会让你觉得有多么的了不起。

对一切事情都事无巨细。

这个适用于你的团队和员工，也适用于你的人生。如果你事无巨细的操心一切而没有一点顺其自然的时候，你会发现自己一直处于的焦虑和巨大的压力中。

避免犯错误。

如果你的职业生涯一直主动的避免犯任何错误，那表明你没有去冒险。虽然你可能会维持现状，但同时你也得不到任何奖赏。去冒险，去犯错，去承认错误，并从中吸取教训。

只考虑你自己。

积极的去找寻帮助他人的机会可能会是你的最好的社交策略。如果你一直把你自己和你自己的需求放在第一位，你会发现自己不会走的远。

不重视自己的幸福。

一个可悲的事实是人们经常相信他们可以将幸福推后，但可能就没有以后了。优先考虑今天就要变的快乐和幸福吧。这可能意味着换工作，或者是做当前这个工作的时候更快乐点。

你认为哪些是人们会感到最后悔的职业选择？一如既往，我希望能在下面的评论里读取你们的意见和故事。

作者：Bernard Marr

来源：Linkedin

 Career Choices You Will Regret In 20 Years

Every day we are faced with choices in our careers that will affect us over the long term. Should I volunteer for that new project? Should I ask for a raise? Should I take a sabbatical? Should I say yes to overtime?

But sometimes we miss the biggest choices that will cause us to look back on our careers 20 years from now with pride and contentment — or regret.

Here are some of the career choices we often make but will regret deeply in 20 years’ time:

Pretending to be something you’re not.

Maybe you’re pretending to be a sports fan to impress your boss, or you’re keeping your mouth shut about something to keep the peace. Maybe you’re pretending that you’re an expert in something that’s really not your cup of tea. But continuously pretending to be something you’re not is not being true to yourself and will keep you feeling empty.

Making decisions based only on money.

Whether we’re talking about your personal salary or your project’s budget, making decisions solely based on money is almost never a good idea. Sure, it’s important to run the numbers, but there are dozens of other factors — including your gut feeling — you’ll want to take into account.

Thinking you can change something about the job.

Much like a relationship, if you go into a job thinking, “This would be the perfect job, if only…” that’s a red flag. Chances are, unless you’re taking a leadership, C-level position, you aren’t going to be able to change things that are fundamentally wrong.

Settling.

You’ve got an OK job, with an OK salary, and OK benefits, but what you really want is… You’re not doing yourself any favors settling for something that is just OK. Believe in yourself enough to go after what you deserve, whether it’s a new position, a pay rise, or an opportunity.

Working 50, 60, 80 hour weeks.

You might think you have to work that much — because it’s expected, because you need the money, because you want to look good to your boss — but no one reaches their deathbed and says, “Gosh, I wish I’d spent more time working.”

Putting friends and family last.

Being successful at your career means surrounding yourself with supportive people — and often, those people aren’t your coworkers or employees, they’re your friends and family. Ruin those relationships and you may find your career success just doesn’t matter as much.

Micromanaging everything.

This applies to your team and employees, but also to life in general. If you micromanage everything instead of sometimes just letting life happen, you’ll find yourself constantly battling anxiety and overwhelm.

Avoid making mistakes.

If you’re actively avoiding making mistakes in your career, then you’re not taking risks. And while you may keep up the status quo, you won’t be rewarded, either. Take the risk. Make the mistake. Own it and learn from it.

Thinking only of yourself.

The best networking strategy you can possibly have is to actively look for opportunities to help others. If you’re always putting yourself and your needs first, you’ll find you don’t get very far.

Not valuing your own happiness.

It’s a sad truth that people often believe they can put off happiness until later, but sometimes later doesn’t come. Prioritize being happy today. That might mean switching jobs, or it might just mean choosing to be happier with the job you’ve got.

What do you think are the biggest career choices people regret? As always, I’d love to hear your ideas and stories in the comments below.

Author：Bernard Marr

Source：Linkedin

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